The Acting Business Boot Camp Podcast
Episode 206: Family Buttons Around the Holidays
“I was 35 years old the first time I spoke up to my mother and refused to buy into her games and manipulation. I was terribly frightened and almost couldn't believe I was doing this. I found I didn't have to be mean. I didn't have to start an argument. But I could say what I wanted and needed to say to take care of myself. I learned I could love and honor myself and still care about my mother the way I wanted to, not the way she wanted me to.”
Take a step back and observe.
I tell myself, mouth shut.
If you are using your mind to govern your brain while you are with family over the holiday and you start to spot the stuff going on.
You can simply remain quiet and just observe it:
- Maybe go to the kitchen.
- Make yourself a cup of tea.
- Make yourself a cup of coffee.
- Go to the bathroom.
- Say, "You know what? My legs are a bit stiff. I'm going to go for a walk."
- Understand that you don't need to be trapped into it.
You can observe it and can...
Episode 205: Control vs. Trust as an Actor
Control versus trust.
“There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living. That I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt so incredibly overwhelming. I wanted to feel like I was in control.”
How many times have I woken up in the morning and just gone, "Oh my God, I don't know how I'm going to be able to face this day?" How many times have I woken up going, "How am I going to take a step forward?"
And the fact of the matter is, I can't control anything.
The only thing I can change is myself and my attitude.
And the whole thing I think about anxiety is that anxiety is about control.
Remember, we will never be given more than we can handle. But we will be given more than we can control.
“Controlling is a...
Episode 204: Have Some Fun as an Actor!
Have some fun.
How important that is, for your instrument as an actor, but also for you as a human being.
“So have some fun. Loosen up a bit, enjoy life. We do not have to be so somber and serious. We do not have to be so reflective, so critical, so bound up within ourselves and the rigid parameters others and often ourselves have placed around us.”
One of the things when I was starting out as a young actress, I would always be quite somber and serious.
It wasn't until doing this work that I allowed myself to be a little bit more silly because it was almost like I felt like it wasn't safe for me to have fun.
I think that I had this idea that I had to work, work, work, and I had to be miserable, and it had to be hard. And that's just not the way it is.
Because when we relax and we have fun, and we play, that's when we enjoy our lives the most, but also how we enjoy a scene or acting the most.
The best actors are so relaxed and in the moment.
“This...
Episode 203: Letting Go of Timing as an Actor
Letting go of timing
Be humble to the moment
“Time thou must untangle this, not I. It is too hard a knot for me untie.”
That nagging feeling of like, “why isn't it moving faster?”
That's what this is all about.
The Language of Letting Go
“When the time is right. How often have we heard those words from a friend? From the universe. From anyone. We sometimes want things so badly: that job, that check, a relationship, a possession. We want our life to change. So we wait sometimes patiently, sometimes anxiously wondering all the while, when will the future bring me what I long for? Will I be happy then? We tried to predict, circling dates on the calendar, asking questions. We forget that we don't hold the answers. The answers come from the universe. And if we really listen closely, we will hear them. When the time is right. When the time is right. Be happy now.”
And when it comes to being uncomfortable, meaning being in process, that...
Episode 200: The Art of Self Approval
Being the Alpha Class for SAG-AFTRA
"Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others."
What I started to learn was that people not liking me was survivable.
That not everybody had to like Peter. Not everybody had to approve of Peter. But the number one person who did need to approve of Peter, who did need to like Peter. Who did need to love Peter was Peter.
"Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they disapprove of our actions."
I survived. And not only did I survive, but I also thrived. Because I no longer was looking for that person's approval. I was looking for my own.
What was so scary about people leaving me was that I didn't know how to love myself. But guess what I learned? I learned. It's something that you can learn.
Please guide me. Please...
Episode 199: Gaining Perspective as an Actor
"Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time. That will make us crazy. We don't always know why things are happening the way they are. We don't always know how a particular relationship will work out. We don't always understand the source of our feelings why we've been led down a particular path. What is being worked out in us? What we are learning. Why do we need to recycle? Why we had to wait? Why we needed to go through a time of discipline, or why a door closed? How our present circumstances will work into the larger scheme of events is not always clear to us. And that is how it needs to be. Perspective will come in retrospect. We could strain for hours today for the meaning of something that may come in an instant next year. But let it go. We can let go of our need to figure things out. And we can let go of our need to feel in control. Now is time to be. To feel. To go through it. To allow things to happen. To learn. To...
Episode 198: Making Peace with Your Acting Past
The Language of Letting Go
"The more I cling to my past, the more I'm wasting my energy."
When you have a computer, and you have a program minimized, understand that that program is still using battery life on your computer.
"Not even God can change the past."
"Holding on to the past, either through guilt, longing, denial, or resentment, is a waste of valuable energy. Energy that can be used to transform today and tomorrow."
I want to transcend my past so that I have more energy to fulfill my day.
"I used to live in my past. I was either trying to change it or letting it control me. Usually both."
An audition where I didn't feel I did my best with the casting director, and then that casting director called me in again. What I used to do is then go, Oh, that casting director doesn't like me. So yeah, I will probably mess this one up as well.
Instead of going, Wow, that casting director called me back even after an audition where I didn't feel I...
Episode 196: The Victim Trap
The victim trap.
Being a victim is just a way for me not to take responsibility for my life and when I am, quite frankly, scared.
The Language of Letting Go
"The victim trap. The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes us a martyr. We can change our negative beliefs about life and whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of ourselves."
Assignment: Ask yourself
- Do I believe that life has to be hard and difficult?
- And then, if I believe life has to be hard and difficult, how do I operate out of that?
- What are the things, what are the thoughts that I think, what are the actions that I do that indicate that?
Because what we're trying to do here is to spot where we are a victim. So I'm immediately in this podcast episode just slamming you right into homework, giving you assignments on how to change so you can get out of this harmful thinking and belief pattern.
"We aren't helpless....
Episode 195: Letting Go of Chaos
Letting go of chaos.
Language of Letting Go, Melodie Beatty
What causes chaos? Well, what causes chaos is control.
"No good work comes from unrest."
And what I have learned about that is how true that is. Because if I don't rest, if I don't fuel up, I cannot be of service to other people around me.
Wake up in the morning and say "Good morning, universe. This is Peter, Pamela Rose, and I am showing up for duty." And I know that kind of sounds crazy, but it takes a lot of pressure off the day.
When I get overwhelmed, all I need to do is simply ask for help, ask for strength, ask for wisdom.
And what does that look like? I'll do it right now. "Give me strength. Please guide me. Show me, show me what it is you want me to do. Show me the things that you need me to do today so I can be of maximum service to other people on this planet."
"Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work...
Episode 194: Interview with ABBC Life Coach Molly Noerenberg
About Molly:
Molly Noerenberg is a life and embodiment coach for performing artists. As a coach, Molly helps people make transformational changes in the way they connect to themselves, their bodies, and their unique nervous systems so that they can bring their most authentic selves into the world. Working with Molly means you will have someone on your team with unwavering belief in what is possible for you. As a coach, Molly has an incredible passion for helping performers connect to their truest essence and finding ways to express themselves that make them feel truly alive.
A fellow performer and singer, Molly has spent her entire career supporting the hearts, minds, and lives of performers. Molly is a certified Life Coach from the Health Coach Institute(formerly Holistic MBA), received her Bachelor of the Arts in Vocal Performance from Carnegie Mellon University, her Masters of the Arts in Vocal Performance from New...
